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The Whole Child, Issue #028- Jam-packed for you!
October 01, 2006
The Whole Child e-zine brings you free preschool activities each week to maximize your child's potential, build skills and parent-child relationships in just a few minutes per day. Useful tips, quotes, resources, opportunities and articles will added for extra value!
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1 October 2006, Issue #028
Hello from Shirley
1. Hello from Shirley
Well, Spring has finally arrived after our cold, wet Cape winter, here in South Africa. My kids have been enjoying playing outside once again, getting dirty in the garden and returning from the trees with mulberry-stained mouths!
know it is Fall in the northern hemisphere and even though it may not
be quite as pleasant out of doors, I challenge you to dress warmly and
go out and observe the changes in nature. Your little ones can learn so
much from being outdoors in conversation with you, learning from the
2. Moms, do the MathWhat am I on about now? For those who have just signed up to for this ezine, please note that this is not a regular column in my ezine, but I hope that by 'doing the math' with me, that some of you subscribers will want to grab this opportunity I am sharing and 'give it a go.'
For the past month, I have done NO WORK on my website, except for publishing this issue and the previous issue of my fortnightly ezine...and despite my lack of work on it, my site has been earning me over $12 per day from clicks on Google ads alone. It costs me $0.82 per day for the annual hosting fee and that is the ony cost involved. Now do the Math - the yearly hosting fee is $299, but I have earned more than that just from ads in a month! The rest of the years earnings is pure profit! I don't even need to sell any products - I can just be an infopreneur! Not bad for a sideline income.
(In South African rand my site costs just over R5 per day and presently earns nearly R100 per day.)
And the beauty of this is that anyone can do it, especially YOU! You don't have to know anything about site building when you start. Just like I did when I started in Nov 2005, you can learn to build a successful and profitable site using the same product that I used.
You can read more about how I did it here or find the right sort of site for you here and start learning where to begin with the free SBI Action Guide.
Use a small
syringe to give your child any medicine, rather than a teaspoon. It is
much less messy. If your child is very young, squirt the medication
into the side of her mouth, then blow into her face, which will make
her swallow. It is usually easier if she is lying down, especially if
she is reluctant to take it.
4. QuoteEnthusiasm is the yeast that makes your hopes shine to the stars. Enthusiasm is the sparkle in your eyes, the swing in your gait. The grip of your hand, the irresistible surge of will and energy to execute your ideas.
5. Book Reviews
I have listed some of my favourite parenting and homeschooling books at Shirley's Store where you can browse and purchase those or any other books you like using Amazon.com's secure online shopping.
A few weeks ago I said I'd review the parenting book I was reading at the time. Well, I have finished it at last, and I highly recommend it, so here is my review. If yould like to buy the book, I'd appreciate if you click on the link here and order it from Amazon.com as they will pay me about 3% commission. Not much, but it all adds up eventually!
By they way, this is a review intertwined with my own thoughts on the topic!
Parenting, by Ross Campbell (Subtitle: You Can Raise Good
Kids in a Troubled World!)
In this book, Campbell explains how so many so-called Christian parenting books actually promote the secular psychology of behavior modification, without acknowledging this underlying theory.
Using this method, good behaviour is encouraged by praise or rewards and bad behaviour is discouraged by discipline and punishment. What is often neglected is the child's anger - both verbal or behavioural expressions of anger by a child are usually severely reprimanded as unacceptable behaviour and so children learn to surpress it ....until they hit adolescence or later and then it erupts!!
Campbell explains four alternatives to use in addition to the limited use of behavior modification:
1. Meeting the emotional and nurturance needs of your child
2. Giving loving training and discipline to your child
3. Providing physical and emotional protection to your child
4. Acknowledging children's emotions and teaching them anger management.
There is more to the book, but this is what struck me most. As the title says, its about your relationship with your child. Campbell, does not give prescriptive methods, but rather shares these basic principles with parents so that they can build a good foundation in their relationship with their children.
To me so many Christian parenting programs deny a child's emotional needs eg. scheduled feeding is encouraged for babies, but sometimes a baby wants to nurse for emotional reasons, to be close to her mother, more than for the nourishment gained.
Likewise, sometimes toddlers and older children start to 'act up' when they need eye-contact, focused attention or physical touch from their parents. Many 'traditional schools' would encourage parents to handle such behaviour with firmness because it is unacceptable, instead of asking the question that Campbell suggests: "WHY is my child acting this way? WHAT does she need?" and then responding lovingly and appropriately.
There are also many parenting resources out there that tend to emphasise spanking as a means to teach small children instant obedience. Now, I am not anti-spanking at appropriate times, but I think that many of us can get stuck in a rut of only using that as a method of dealing with unacceptable behaviour. Ross Campbell talks about the need to show a child respect, the difference between requests and commands, the importance of eye contact, using gentle physical manipulation and finally, punishment, the most negative form of discipline, which he says, should only be a small part of child training.
As a seasoned mother once said, "We parents are either too lenient with our kids or too harsh with them, it takes some years to find the balance" - especially as each child is different!
I believe we need to be cautious about allowing any author or authority to dictate our parenting style, which is easy to do if you lack confidence and experience.
Another thing I read recently is that 'punishment does not bring righteousness'. It is our relationship with our kids that will cause them to come to repentance, not just the consequences of their sin.
I believe that there are no formulas for good parenting, we need to be led by the Holy Spirit moment by moment, but Campbell's book has shown me that as parents we need to do more than just react to our children's behaviour. We can learn to understand our children's needs and emotions better and build good relationships that will last from where we are now, at preschool level, through the adolescent years to adulthood.
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The Whole Child - Week 30-31 Activities - printable pdf
motor skills – eye-hand co-ordination
Play ball games with your child using a small ball like a tennis ball. Show her how to toss the ball back and forth between her two hands quickly like a juggler would do. Let her bounce the ball up and down to the ground using the palm of her hand. Do the exercise with both hands. Play any other ball games you choose, rolling, throwing, catching or kicking the ball, but stop when your child loses interest or concentration.
motor skills - manual dexterity
Let your child hold a small ball with the fingertips of both hands. Show her how to spin the ball forwards with her fingertips. Repeat spinning the ball backwards.
Using plastic shapes from a toy shape set or cut from paper, place five different shapes in front of your child. Discuss and name the shapes with her. Ask her to look away while you remove one and replace it with a different shape. You child must try to determine which shape has bee replaced. Replace more than one shape at a time as she improves at the game.
perception –auditory and numerical conceptualising
Let your child stand with her back to you. Clap your hands and ask her how many times you clapped. Repeat clapping once, twice, three, four and five times at random.
The Bible encourages us to be thankful in all circumstances. Model this to your children and point out others that are less fortunate than themselves. Help them to appreciate all the blessings in their lives.
and thinking – auditory memory
Teach your child some short nursery rhymes. Recite them together until your child knows them by heart. Although you will find plenty of nursery rhymes at this link on Shirley's Preschool Activities, I still recommend that you rather buy a nicely illustrated book of nursery rhymes that you can enjoy together.
Here are some options that you could consider:
At Amazon.com:My Very First Mother Goose
Ask your child to count one, two, three, four or five objects and hand them to you. Repeat this activity often as you go about your daily activities.
Ask your child questions using the words who, what, where, why and how. Ask questions which will require her to think up her own answer which will neither be wrong or right, but test her general insight: Why do we need to eat food? How do you make a bowl of cereal? Why do people drive cars? Where do fish live?
motor skills & language development
Ask your child to touch and name the body parts that she uses
1. to smell (nose)
2. to feel (skin)
3. to taste (tongue)
4. to hear (ears)
5. to see (eyes)
If your child enjoys this game, continue naming body parts, even smaller parts like elbows, wrists, neck, ankles, palms, soles etc.
Let your child build any puzzles that you have that are appropriate for her age.
motor skills – manual dexterity, eye-hand co-ordination
Allow your child to play with play dough or modeling clay. She should be able to roll it flat with a rolling pin and use cookie cutters. Also encourage her to shape it into long snake-like shapes as well as to roll it into small balls. You'll find a play dough recipe under Preschool Craft Recipes on my Preschool Crafts page.Faith building
Remind your child that when we pray, we are talking to the King of kings and Lord of lords, but also to a dear Friend who loves us very much. Be ready to answer questions about where He is and why we can’t see Him.